6 steps to finding your way back today

Six powerful changes to kick start your life upgrade.

1. Invest in your rest

Deep restful sleep is a cornerstone of health and wellbeing. Without it, life quickly becomes miserable and all the Prada in the world won’t help you. Acknowledge its true importance by dedicating time to creating a restful sanctuary and removing all habits that prevent you from maximising its amazing restorative powers.

2. Beat the bloat

Go low carb for a week and you will be amazed how much better you feel. Lighter, less puffy and waterlogged with a flatter stomach and clearer skin. Your energy levels will be much more stable, you won’t have those awful rises and falls in blood sugar levels that leave you ravenous. Start now – just for a week. Don’t count calories, enjoy plenty of protein and good fats and don’t forget those greens!

3. Go on a tech detox

Are you driven to distraction? If you spend two hours a day on social tech from age 15 to 85 you will have spent over 17 years worth of full eight hour days on your devices. Make sure you are going to be happy with that stat at the end of your life. Behavioural psychologist, Dr. Susan Weinschenk explains, “People get addicted via a dopamine loop – dopamine starts you seeking, you get rewarded for seeking via an instant response (a text or a tweet) and then you seek more.” This is not without its costs. “Constant stimulation of the dopamine system is exhausting. And the constant switching of attention makes it hard to get anything accomplished,” she adds. Switch off all alerts and give yourself a break.

4. Drop the need for certainty

We live in a non-static, unstable universe. From a cosmological scale to a subatomic one, everything is moving. At a subatomic level nothing is solid – it’s fizzing with movement. The truth is, as we all know, all form dissolves – it comes and goes. You finish your extension and then your roof springs a leak. You complete your family and your husband leaves. You get a promotion and your pet falls ill. It is impossible to pin life down. It can’t be done – it’s just not the Universe’s way. Letting go of the need for certainty helps you to relax so much more into life. It does not mean that you are irresponsible, simply that you accept (and therefore bring peace to) the ever fluid, ever changing nature of the world of form and the illusionary nature of ‘security’.

5. Have a comparison detox

Comparing yourself to others is exhausting. Firstly, people never compare like with like. They compare their just-out-of-bed-face with Jennifer Aniston’s red carpet look. Secondly, they edit out everyone else’s struggles and hone in on the successful, glossy end result. As pastor Steven Furtick says, “The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind the scenes with everyone elses’ highlight reel.” Thirdly, there’s no end to comparisons. Thinness, fame, square footage, yoga poses, beauty, intellect, wealth, fluffiness of cats – where does it stop? It always seems to end up with you on the bottom and everyone else above you. “Comparison,” as Roosevelt rightly observed, “is the thief of joy.”

6. Let go of the need for approval

The need for approval causes immense anxiety and often stops people fully expressing all that they are. Critics owe all their power and influence to the fact people value their opinion. Think of it this way. You are in a bar in London sitting next to the most famous actress in Ecuador. Would you have that giddy fame thing going on? No, because she is not famous for you. The same person who would create pandemonium in Quito generates a completely neutral reaction in London. Therefore, you donate someone’s fame to them by reacting in a certain way. In the same way, you donate a critic’s power to them by being upset or deflated by their words. Thank people who are trying to help in a kind way and see the ultimate neutrality of even the harshest words when you do not donate any power to them. The fame and power of others is always in your gift.

“To avoid criticism say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.”

– Aristotle